You don’t need a professor or therapist to tell you how important it is to SELF-CARE!
Please be advised, I am not a counsellor and I am not giving out mental heath advice. This blog is about my personal journey. I highly recommend if you're struggling with self love and self care, seeking help from a licensed therapist or counsellor which can provide you with the right tools and strategies to improve your mental health.
A LITTLE BIT ABOUT MY SELF-CARE JOURNEY 📖
My self-care and self-confidence story is a little funny and a little sad. Sad because, looking back, 14 year old me could have been happier and more confident.💛 I had no clue about self care or what it really meant.
I was a typical teenager who wanted the pain to end, I felt like I was drowning in soft sand. No one would listen to me. I was living in a foreign country (Italy) and thought everyone hated me✨
The thought of other people even saying my name made me feel so small and embraced. I am not proud to admit that I used to be in that sad mentality and judged everyone. I had zero self-love. At 19, I was in such a bad place that I left school in my last year, gained weight, was in a very controlling and toxic relationship, pushed away a lot of people I loved, and didn’t have a good relationship with my parents.
But I finally realised at one point that it’s not about what others think, it’s really just about what I think about myself, how I tals to myself and judge myself, and how I want to feel everyday of my life. We all have our problems, we all have something to solve. That doesn’t mean we have to be nasty to someone else or to yourself just because you think you have it worse than anyone else. For so many years, I was punishing myself because I thought I didn’t deserve to feel good and be confident everyday. I was so blind I couldn’t see what these people with so much confidence had.
You know, I understood we don’t need a professor or a therapist to tell us to self care and self love, it’s common sense, it lives in us. All we need to do is stop allowing our true selves to drown.
✨At the age of 28, my life turned around for the best. I finally got myself out of the toxic relationship, pushed all the toxic people out of my life, and started to surround myself with like-minded, good, kind people, people who wanted me to grow and thrive.
💛This is where I finally started to practice self care.
I started talking to myself in a kind way and started to uplift myself. I great things for myself like, walking, yoga and meditating, and I was introduced to the law of attraction, something I will talk about in another blog. Slowly, my mind was opening up to the bright light, I didn’t feel that suffocating feeling anymore. I lost the 5 kilos I could never get rid of. My skin was glowing, and I wanted to see, live more, and do more. I finally started to look after myself, bought new makeup, and threw the old stuff away. I got lip fillers, which made me feel confident. It is something I would of never done before. I made new friends. I started looking at myself with love, care, and respect, and most importantly, there was no hate. I haven’t judged anyone or myself since I was reborn.
I focused on my business, which took a new turn. That year, I even met the love of my life.
After all I understood what self-care is truly about.
It’s about logging off and being a little selfish, not in a way that hurts anyone. I had to stop taking other people’s pains into my own feelings and I started to be selfish.
Ex: If someone comes to me with a personal situation. I will listen and be there for them but the say “I am so sorry this has happened, I will connect you with someone who can help,” and then switch off the care button and don’t take their worries as my own.
Another way to deal with stress and keep my barriers up, is I need to remember that things have a purpose and a solution.🔑💛
I AM SURE YOU ARE WONDERING WHY I AM TELLING YOU MY WHOLE LIFE STORY WHEN WE ARE HERE TO TALK ABOUT SELF-CARE. 😅 What does this have to do with self-care? All I want to find out is what skincare to use, when to get my brows done, and how to feel good!!
Yes, these are all very important factors, and this is where you can start.
I am not telling you all this so you can say, "Oh, la-di-da, good for you." But if you clicked on my self-care blog, it means you are looking for yourself.
Here are 10 star tips that saved my life:
I want you to follow them or a few to start with. My Personal favourite that I will forever be grateful for are 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 8. Find out below:
Practical Tips for Starting Your Self-Care Journey
Skincare Routine: Begin with a simple skincare routine. Cleansing, toning, and moisturizing are key steps. Experiment with different products to find what works best for your skin type. Facials can also be a great way to treat your skin and give yourself a moment of relaxation.
Eyebrow/Lash Care: Grooming your eyebrows and lashes can make a big difference in how you feel about your appearance. Regular maintenance, whether it's tweezing, waxing, or threading, lash extension, lash lifts can help you feel more put together. Don’t hesitate to visit a professional if you’re unsure where to start.
Mindfulness and Meditation: Take a few minutes each day to meditate or practice mindfulness. This can help reduce stress and improve your overall mental well-being. Apps like Headspace or Calm can guide you through the process.
🏃♂️Exercise: Incorporate some form of physical activity into your routine. Whether it's yoga, running, or a gym session, exercise can significantly boost your mood and confidence. Exercise your body but also exercise your mind by reading educating book or fiction as long as you find something to log off. If you don’t like reading you can listen to books. Listening to podcast I recommend to start with topics about self care, law of attraction or positive mind set. Even if you listen to topics that interest you can be very helpful it can about career changing, business, money, true stories, sports, gardening anything that you love.
🍎Healthy Eating: Nourish your body with healthy foods. A balanced diet can improve your energy levels and make you feel better overall. Remember, it's not about dieting but about making sustainable, healthy choices.
Self-Love Practices: Practice affirmations and positive self-talk. Write down things you love about yourself and read them daily. Surround yourself with positive influences and let go of toxic relationships. Stop yourself from judging others, once you start doing that you will also stop judging yourself.
Pampering Sessions: Treat yourself to a spa day or an at-home pampering session. Facials, massages, and other beauty treatments can make you feel rejuvenated and appreciated.
Set Boundaries: Learn to say no and set boundaries to protect your mental and emotional health. It's important to prioritise your well being.
Hobbies and Interests: Engage in activities that make you happy. Whether it's painting, reading, gardening, dancing or good food. Hobbies can be a great way to unwind and express yourself.
Professional Help: If you're struggling with self-love and self-care, seeking help from a therapist or counselor can provide you with tools and strategies to improve your mental health. Invest in yourself!
Remember, Self-Care is a Journey
Self care and self love are ongoing processes. It's about making small, consistent changes that lead to a happier and healthier you. Whether you're just starting or looking to deepen your self-care routine, remember that it's never too late to begin and it is a beautiful thing to discover. Your journey is unique, and every step you take is a step towards a better you.
Please be advised, I am not a counselor and not giving out mental heath advice. This blog is about my personal journey. I highly recommend if you're struggling with self love and self care, seeking help from a licensed therapist or counselor can provide you with the right tools and strategies to improve your mental health.